Monday, May 23, 2011
Richard Emmerson, Mary-Ann and I
These events occurred almost 30 years ago. I had all but forgiven the offending parties but recent events have caused me to feel offended again. My name is being used and dishonored to prevent someone from facing the truth and to save face. I can forgive the sins of old, although I will never forget those events. It's the current lies that are causing me offense.
I will relate the story here for anyone interested in the truth and as a way for me to heal. I am fully prepared to defend these words in court should the need arise.
As I said, it was almost 30 years ago. I was living with my then girlfriend, Mary-Ann, while attending Carleton U. I had cause to feel that I was being lied to so I watched and discovered that my girlfriend was seeing someone else, Richard, while living with me. That weekend, in the middle of the night came a knock on the door. It was Richard, who immediately attacked me. An attack that included a knife. I still bear that scar although I prevailed in the battle. Eventually the police arrived and we all got to go to the hospital for treatment, except Mary-Ann who was unharmed. The police informed me that Mary-Ann, in her statement, had said that Richard had called her earlier in the day to tell her of his intentions. In order to avoid a difficult conversation with me, she decided that he was bluffing and decided not to inform me of his intent. The police called it attempted murder for him and conspiracy for her. I told them I would not co-operate with them in any charges against her so they didn't charge her and lowered his charge to assault with a weapon. I was also informed that under the circumstances, I would have been justified in a much more severe and final reaction than I had taken. I restrained myself because she was right there the whole time, and almost paid with my life.
She eventually married this guy and we all moved on. I have met her several times over the years and she has always been cordial although not always honorable. Seems, she never learned much from it all, and really never learned anything about me. Again, no harm, no foul, as it didn't make much difference to me or my life. Until recently that is. I have come to believe that the truth of the matter is being avoided and my name is being dishonored to prevent some possibly interested parties from learning the truth of that day. This I find quite disturbing and unacceptable. She could have simply just avoided the subject if she chose not to be honest, I wouldn't care about that. Lying about me and my honor.... That I do care about and have taken steps to set the story straight. The life of her husband, and his children, are the direct result of my grace and honor that day. My honor remains. Any falsehoods regarding the story do far greater dishonor to the teller than they do to me. Anyone interested can comment and I will reply.
I will relate the story here for anyone interested in the truth and as a way for me to heal. I am fully prepared to defend these words in court should the need arise.
As I said, it was almost 30 years ago. I was living with my then girlfriend, Mary-Ann, while attending Carleton U. I had cause to feel that I was being lied to so I watched and discovered that my girlfriend was seeing someone else, Richard, while living with me. That weekend, in the middle of the night came a knock on the door. It was Richard, who immediately attacked me. An attack that included a knife. I still bear that scar although I prevailed in the battle. Eventually the police arrived and we all got to go to the hospital for treatment, except Mary-Ann who was unharmed. The police informed me that Mary-Ann, in her statement, had said that Richard had called her earlier in the day to tell her of his intentions. In order to avoid a difficult conversation with me, she decided that he was bluffing and decided not to inform me of his intent. The police called it attempted murder for him and conspiracy for her. I told them I would not co-operate with them in any charges against her so they didn't charge her and lowered his charge to assault with a weapon. I was also informed that under the circumstances, I would have been justified in a much more severe and final reaction than I had taken. I restrained myself because she was right there the whole time, and almost paid with my life.
She eventually married this guy and we all moved on. I have met her several times over the years and she has always been cordial although not always honorable. Seems, she never learned much from it all, and really never learned anything about me. Again, no harm, no foul, as it didn't make much difference to me or my life. Until recently that is. I have come to believe that the truth of the matter is being avoided and my name is being dishonored to prevent some possibly interested parties from learning the truth of that day. This I find quite disturbing and unacceptable. She could have simply just avoided the subject if she chose not to be honest, I wouldn't care about that. Lying about me and my honor.... That I do care about and have taken steps to set the story straight. The life of her husband, and his children, are the direct result of my grace and honor that day. My honor remains. Any falsehoods regarding the story do far greater dishonor to the teller than they do to me. Anyone interested can comment and I will reply.
Labels: fathfullness, forgiveness, honor, Ottawa, Richard Emmerson
# posted by Wil Smith : 3:35 p.m.
